If You Are 87 and Living Alone Is Becoming Difficult: Alternatives Before Moving to a Care Home
Reaching a point where living alone feels harder does not automatically mean the only option is moving into a care home. Many older adults prefer to remain in a familiar home or community with extra support. The right choice depends on your health, safety needs, finances, and the help available from family, friends, and services.
Here are some alternatives to consider:
1. Home care support
You may be able to stay at home with help from a caregiver who visits regularly.
Support can include:
- Help with bathing, dressing, and personal care
- Meal preparation
- Medication reminders
- Housework and shopping
- Companionship and social visits
Care can range from a few hours a week to daily or live-in support.
2. Moving closer to family
A move does not always mean a care facility. Some people choose to:
- Move into a nearby apartment or smaller home
- Live in an accessory dwelling unit (such as a small home on a family member’s property)
- Relocate closer to children or trusted friends
This can provide independence while making help easier to access.
3. Independent or assisted living communities
These communities can provide a middle option between living completely alone and entering a nursing home.
They may offer:
- Private apartments
- Meals
- Transportation
- Social activities
- Emergency assistance
- Help with daily tasks when needed
4. A home-sharing arrangement
Some older adults share their home with:
- A trusted roommate
- A caregiver who lives in exchange for help
- A family member
This can reduce loneliness and provide extra security.
5. Adult day programs
If nights are manageable but days feel lonely or difficult, adult day services can provide:
- Social activities
- Meals
- Exercise programs
- Supervision
- Health-related support
6. Make the home safer and easier to manage
Small changes can make a big difference:
- Install grab bars and better lighting
- Remove trip hazards such as loose rugs
- Add emergency alert systems
- Arrange grocery and medication delivery
- Use automatic pill organizers if needed
